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I have a hard time making friends. And it's not for the reason you'd think. I can read people. I can tell almost right away who's genuine and who isn't, who actually cares and who's just going through the motions. And somehow that's made it harder to have friends, not easier. Most conversations now are the same thing repackaged every single day. Surface level. Nobody really wants to get into anything real. At work everyone's friendly but I couldn't tell you if a single one of them is actually a friend. I miss the kind of friendship where you could just lay on somebody's couch and watch TV and it wasn't weird. Where you were just genuinely hanging out, in each other's presence, not performing anything. I don't even know if that exists anymore or if it's just my age. The thing is, I've called people out before. Said somebody was off when nobody else saw it. And weeks later it always comes to light. I see it from a mile away. That same radar that protects me is probably the thing that makes it hard to let people in. I'm not looking for a lot. I don't need a big group. Just a couple guys who can talk about more than one hobby, who can disagree and still be friends, who actually want to go deep on something. And honestly, the people I relate to are out there. So many of you in these comments are exactly those people. We're just scattered. Is it just me, or do you feel this too? Drop it below. If this one hit home, subscribe. This is Outside The Order. #makingfriends #adultfriendship #realtalk #workingclass #loneliness