Uploads from Irene Lyon

What do you work with first? Shock trauma, car accident, right? Or early developmental trauma that's pre-verbal that has no one event. And it's very important to look at those two because when there was, I'm kind of really jumping in here, this early developmental trauma where there was no one event, but just it was unsafe for many reasons we will get into, the physiology has this sense of danger. And the words that a person might feel, although they might not articulate it, the world's a dangerous place, we're all going to die, I'm all alone, no one is there, and I've got to do it all on my own. Can't trust anyone. Right? Those are some of the common uh that's the verbage that you might sense or feel, and I have no doubt that those listening are going to hear that and go, "How did she know?" >> [laughter] >> So, it's not rocket science, it's just that's what happens when a little physiology either in utero, infancy, toddler is under threat, annihilation, um injury, uh you know, misattunement, all these things. And so there becomes this physiology, stress chemistry that's like it's unsafe. That doesn't go away with time. Right? And eventually it catches up. And so then those individuals come into our world with chronic conditions, and chronic anxiety, depression, all the things. And they try to and and you would know this and I would know this cuz I was in this, get safe, you know, let out emotions, uh show up with agency, have a good relationship, but there's this like nagging little thing. And that nagging little thing is this core cellular unsafety, this lack of a secure base, which we should have had, should have, I say that in quotes, when we were little. So, to say to someone who had who have had who's had that kind of early developmental preverbal trauma, you've got to find safety, or let's get you safe so we can do the work, it doesn't compute. I'll use an example that one of my mentors, Cathy Cain, said. It's like saying to someone, you need to drive from Paris to Rome. Here's a Ferrari, you know, with all the gas, and here are your maps, you know, here are your snacks, you got a co-pilot, get in and go. And then you go, but I don't know how to drive. It's like you can have all the right things there, but if you don't know how to actually maneuver that vehicle, use a clutch, read street signs, feel, you know, it it even if it wasn't a Ferrari, if it was a little putt-putt Honda, you know, you still wouldn't know how to get there. What I'm trying to say here is safety is inherently cellular. You can have the things around you. You can say, yep, the doors are locked. Um I've got my fuzzy blanket. Got my favorite book. And people do that. They will resource, and they need to. But then there's always this I better check that again. Or I need another resource. I need another thing to soothe me. But when when when we are inherently safe, we don't need to go to those things. They're nice. It's good to have resources, but we don't need them. We can self-regulate internally. Um so that's sort of an intro to cellular core safety versus working with say an accident that we know might be giving us a little bit of a niggle, a phobia, a worry. >> [music]