Techniques for healing and recovery from narcissistic abuse.
Curated by: Prof. Sam Vaknin (102 videos)
Mirror image of separating-individuating from the narcissist in the wake of narcissistic abuse Engulfment anxiety and dependency cause the borderline to cast you as an abuser Admit your contributions as an intimate partner (mate selection, for example, or savior-rescuer complex) I am not an abuser: your authentic voice, get rid of guilt and shame Borderlines parentify: Get rid of the maternal function in the shared fantasy Hand over ownership, regulation Separation: silence your voice in her mind, enhance your authentic voice What about individuation? Once your voice is silenced, both external regulator (“abuser”) and savior, mother and child are gone. Authentic voice is disembodied. Embodying. Individuation requires mind-body work: owning your voice also by connecting it to your body. Reconstituting three lost functions: self-mothering (self-love), self-saving (agency), choosing and affirming life (negating depression, anxiety, catastrophizing, and ANTS) Watch Take These 4 Steps BEFORE Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JAE_z8gD5-8 Watch Love Yourself: Here’s How - or, The Four Pillars of Self-love https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vzBf9QvClo Watch Decode, Heal Your Mind with IPAM (Intrapsychic Activation Model) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTfpJ3RHf7g Watch Hijacked by Narcissist’s Serpent Voice? Do THIS! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fT7pQ35LYlU Watch Take Your Life Back, Own It https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUggi8tRTbE Watch Go to Your Desert, Listen to Your Inner Silence https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qOh-iOaWTt8 Watch How to Individuate, Heal from Narcissistic Abuse https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I3gmcbWsyBM Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3